Friday, May 22, 2020

a decision, mating rituals, corn


Today Pam and I went to look again at one of the first houses we looked at. She had narrowed it down to three floor plans from what we had seen in person and on-line so far and she decided that this was the one, no need to look further.

Here's the floor plan, 15.2' x 76'. It has some nice features like a small utility room as opposed to a niche or closet, a nice walk in pantry, cabinets that are 11” deep (all the others we looked at the cabinets were 9 1/2” deep), adequate counter space, a window in the kitchen (the only house we looked at I think that had that), double windows (regular window and storm window), air and heat vents are in the ceiling instead of the floor, carpet in the master bedroom and bedroom 3 and vinyl everywhere else. The master bath is arranged a little differently in the house we're buying but essentially the same.


I took these pictures off the website (because obviously this is not her furniture) since the ones I took today weren't that great.

her house doesn't have that wood panel in the middle of the far living room accent wall and the color is brown instead of gray in our house and all the other walls are an off-white

The guy is getting the paperwork together and coming out Tuesday evening to do his site survey...look over the lot and the street and ditches and the cedar tree by the gate that we are probably going to have to trim some branches off of so as to get the house in, and where we have it staked off for the house to go. Next, it turns out I don't really need a pad but it's an extremely good idea so that water won't collect under the house and to make sure the ground is stable so I have to see to that. I thought we could put the meter box on the house instead of having to have a meter pole since there is a pole about 25' from where the house will be but he says that can't be done so we will have to get a meter box pole and I need to check with the electric company to make sure the transformer across the street can accommodate another 200 amp service. As soon as we have the pad we can arrange to have the house moved onto the property, then the meter box pole, septic system, and hooking up the house to all the utilities (water, septic, electricity). Once all that is done the seller comes out and inspects everything and then installs the HVAC system.

Grandgirl Autumn finished the last exam of her third year of college and hopped the bus and came to visit her folks for a few days before she heads back Sunday for her Memorial Day weekend 'date' with her he's-not-my-boyfriend male companion who she's been going out with for several months. Relationships/friendships between girls and boys is very different now from when I grew up. They don't date the way we used to. Well, they don't date as far as I can tell, at least they don't call it that and  they communicate by text. Not even my daughter (no cell phones though), just one generation removed. I don't think she ever went on a car date where the guy comes and picks you up and you go out somewhere and then brings you back home at curfew. Or even a double date. They went out in groups or gathered at some appointed place. She went to her prom with two girlfriends. That would not have been allowed in my time. You had a date with a person of the opposite sex or you couldn't go. Wouldn't go! As soon as a girl managed to attract a member of the opposite sex, she had a boyfriend and he a girlfriend, she's looking for the best possible mate, he's hoping for sex. because women, girls had very few choices or options back then. Women's wealth in life was determined by the guy she married since all of our jobs were the same...stay home, have babies, keep house, if you were wealthy you could oversee the 'help'. If you were wealthy you could spend your time on charitable pursuits. That's sort of the future that I was expecting though my parents urged, expected, us girls to go to college, and it was the future for my older sister who like many of our contemporaries went for one year, found a husband, and then started having babies. I was on the same track but then the 60s happened, had been happening, and I embraced it. And then mating rituals changed to say the least. Anyway, I digress.

Autumn was here, her mom working in the city yesterday, so I picked her up and we drove out to Boling, another very small nearby town to get some fresh local sweet corn because their corn guy was set up at the 4-way stop, some to eat now, some to freeze, some for me, some for Sarah. So Autumn and I put up 11 cups of cut corn. 


My vacuum sealer would suck the air out but wouldn't seal so it did actually suck so I had to suck the air out of the ziplock bags with a straw because did the grocery store or Walmart have a new one I could buy? No, no they did not. I'll repackage the corn when the new vacuum sealer I ordered on-line gets here. Marc had been online to see if he could find some repair info but they wanted $5 to text with a tech.

I noticed our corn man, who is usually at the farmer's market which is canceled now because guess why but I don't expect it will come back because it was struggling for vendors as it was, was set up on the way to Walmart so I'll get some corn from him too. Turns out his wife is a cousin of our neighbor Leonard which doesn't surprise me in the least since I swear he and his wife Judy are related to just about everyone in town and are distant cousins themselves. And once again I digress.

Sarah came to pick up Autumn and had grandgirl Robin with her who was also spending the weekend with her folks and we had had enough of no hugs and I hugged both grandgirls and my daughter. I knowhopeknow they have been careful and aren't sick.





15 comments:

  1. Pam's layout is identical, except enough extra length for a third bedroom. I'm sure she will love it. My old next door neighbor is jealous of the layout of mine vs. the one she has/I had. Oh, and a kitchen window. I'd love one of those.
    I was thinking recently about the absence of hugs. I can barely remember the last.

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  2. I am so grateful to have hugs from my husband and dammit, I'm about to start hugging my grandchildren and children, too. I can't take much more of this although I hear that in the last two weeks another million people in the US (I think) became infected.
    I think that will be a very nice home for your sister. My first husband and I lived in a 10 by 50 foot trailer once (they didn't call them mobile homes then) and we had first one child and then...another. Phew. I do think we had a window in the kitchen though! Although possibly not. It was an old one, even then, and had red carpeting. The best part though, was that it had a bathroom! We'd been living in an old shack without one. We were in high cotton when we moved into that funky old trailer.

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  3. I really like the layout of your sister's new mobile home and a window over the kitchen sink...lovely. In my house I have a window over the kitchen sink but outside is my driveway, and then a narrow sidewalk that runs alongside of the driveway and along the side of my neighbor's house. We both keep our curtains over our kitchen sinks closed so as give each other some semblance of privacy.

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  4. Well, and thank GOODNESS dating rituals have changed. I think it's great how young people are so much less restricted (and restrictive) in their definitions. Your sister's new house looks great! I can't imagine having to jump through all those hoops to get it installed, but I understand why it's necessary. Good luck!

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  5. Whoever designed that floor plan was obviously a student. There are design flaws and fire hazards just waiting to happen.
    Poor design flaw#1 : Never have a walk in closet open to the bathroom. The steam or moisture in the air will produce mold and mildew in the closet.
    Poor design flaw#2: Never put a water heater or heating unit in a clothes closet. It's a dangerous potential for fire.
    I also have a question. If that is the master bath then why is there no bath tub? All in all I wouldn't buy that floor plan and keep looking but that's just my opinion.

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    1. I gather you've never shopped for a manufactured home. Given our size and price restrictions, many of the homes we looked at had the closet off the bathroom in the master (though the other two contenders didn't and there is a door on the closet) and there are options to upgrade the master bath if you want a tub as well as a stand alone shower (which makes the closet that much smaller). personally I don't know any adults that regularly bathe instead of shower and if she wants a soak, she's got a tub/shower combo in the other bathroom. and the water heaters are always in a closet but they have to build these homes to fire and other safety regulations so (and my own water heater is in a closet) they are properly vented. and you'd be surprised how many very expensive homes I've been in throughout my career that have the closets off the master bathroom.while the closet off the master bath isn't ideal, this house had many other features that overrode that for my sister.

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  6. Goodness yes, we fought those rituals. I walked up on the wooden stage to collect my (equivalent to a) high school diploma wearing a wrap-around cotton skirt and wooden clogs and my mother pretended she didn't know me after that for the rest of the ceremonials.
    Nowadays, the school leavers here need three dresses (girls, one for the diploma thing, one for the official party and one for the disco afterwards) tux (boys) and if possible a limo.

    That house looks neat and spacious, what kind of roof?

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  7. How excited your sister must be to be setting everything up afresh, and so close to you. And I was fascinated by your reflections on how courtship has changed. My dad always insisted I should be able to row my own boat. He didn’t want me dependent on the fortunes of a partner. I give him a lot of credit for instilling that sense of independence.

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  8. yes hanging out, is as rot of date, much improved over the time when we went on dates. I hated dating...I would much rather "hang out". Kids are smarted now and there are more opportunities for females. A lot more support - my Mother instilled in me that same "row your own boat" - "Sail single handed" advice, and it has served me very well. You sure are a busy bee, my life is flatter than a pancake , stretched out from morning till night, my dream life is good though...Still in stay at home mode here.

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    1. as rot...freudian slip? I meant " a sort of date...

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  9. I went to both of my proms with girlfriends - I never dated in high school. But when I went to college I went to a few dances with guys & I was under impressed with the whole shebang. Except for dressing up - I liked that part.

    I think the home looks like a winner to me!

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  10. I went to my HS Prom with a boy mother picked. In the 1920's, mother graduated from the UM as an architectural engineer. A middle granddaughter went to her's with a girl.
    What is wrong with that you are living in now?

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    1. there's nothing wrong with the way things are now, in fact I prefer it and wish things weren't so rigid when I was growing up. it was just an observation about how things have changed in my lifetime.

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  11. I'm with you on the hugs. Smiles and hugs and laughter are such an important part of how we express our humanity - they help make us human, actually. I'm all for being cautious, and I'm sure not going to head to the beach or the bars, but I honestly don't think a hug with a family member or friend is going to kill me, or them. Caution is one thing; abject fear is something else, and there are an awful lot of people whomping up fear.

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