Sunday, April 20, 2025

party prep and Eostre


The idea of a party for my 75th seemed fun when asked about. The reality of making it happen filled me with anxiety…at first. A guest list? I have to make a guest list? I don’t know anybody here, really, who would I invite besides my two glass couple friends who don’t even live here and a couple of neighbors and family, a puny prospect for a party, although as my daughter said, we’re a party all on our own. Then I was reminded about the people I volunteer with at SHARE and the ones I go to yoga with. I discounted the class in El Campo, I’m the oldest person, as old as everyone else’s parents, and their attendance twice a week for 40 minutes at a time is sporadic and we don’t really socialize. The yoga class here though, I invited the older couple who comes every time that I’ve gotten friendly with and one other person. 


That left SHARE wherein most of my anxiety stemmed. Can I invite just the volunteers I work with in the back or should I invite all the volunteers. I don’t really want to hurt anyone’s feelings if word got around they weren’t invited but it’s not a SHARE social event. Ultimately I invited all but three that were there last Thursday when I handed out the really cute invitations one at a time that my daughter made. And I have to tell you I was really surprised by some of the delight and positive reactions I got. In the end I invited about 40 people (some I know can’t/won’t come) about half of which are family. That’s a lot. Too many maybe. What if it rains and we have to have it in our small house? I was anxious about who to invite and now I’m anxious that they'll all show up!


I’ve been working out in the yard, doing things I ordinarily ignore like picking up all the bricks laying around and empty pots, made the table a new leg, 

cut out all the brown and tattered leaves from the aspidistra, moved some pots around. It’s looking very nice. Of course all the pretty things that have been blooming all month will be done by next Sunday but some of the day lilies might be blooming and the purple coneflowers are starting up.


Next week I’ll be doing house cleaning and putting stuff away. Sarah came over yesterday afternoon to plan for food and drink and chairs. Basically barbecued chicken, hamburgers, hot dogs, a potato dish (getting that from a local eatery), a green salad, a pasta salad, maybe deviled eggs, a cake, cookies, beer, wine, lemonade, tea, water.


Yeah, I think it’s going to be fun despite my misplaced misgivings.


And today is the stolen holiday of Eostre, the pre-christian celebration of spring and fertility when Mother Earth is renewed in the form of Virgin Spring proudly showing off her tender pretty lady bits inviting all the pollinators to come fulfill her. Getting it on with your loved one is especially appropriate today.

 

12 comments:

  1. Sounds like a nice gathering. Hope the weather cooperates and you have a terrific time!

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  2. The party will be fun. you will have a great time. That is my prediction!

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  3. I am not sure of the exact day of your birth but happy birthday, Ellen! I hope you have the very best, most fun birthday party ever. Sounds to me like you have it all under control.

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  4. Birthday GGrrrlll! Have a happy day , eat a lot and here is a pinch to grow an inch.

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  5. Codex: Happy b- day Ellen. Just enjoy the day.

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  6. Relax. You’ll have a great time - and if you drink enough wine you won’t care!

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  7. Sounds like you're giving a party to others, to celebrate your big day! I hope it turns out being a very happy day, and your next round trip around the sun is full of everything your heart imagines!

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  8. I always have the same anxiety you do about parties, but I think it will be fun!

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  9. Parties are often a double-edged sword -- they sound fun but then they produce anxiety too. I'm sure it will all go well! Your yardwork sounds a bit like ours. Lots of pottering around and this and that.

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  10. Just remember some of the best advice I ever was given: do what you can do, and not what you can't. Everyone will have a fine time at the party, including you. "Party" can be a loaded term, anyway. Think of it as a gathering of friends, and enjoy!

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  11. This all sounds like excellent preparations. If people are delighted when invited it's a good sign.
    The man here loves a big party and the last time we organised one for him, my daughter had the brilliant idea of outside catering, all I had to do was pay for it.

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