My house. This is the oldest picture I have of the house from the late 1970s.
I bought this house in the summer of 1975 with a Fannie Mae loan and my father, who co-signed the papers and loaned me the 10% of the $19,000 purchase price needed for the down payment. I was 25, had just started my little studio doing etched glass, and was scared spitless that I had just signed a paper that indebted me for $17,100 plus interest. The payments were less than $200 a month. I wasn’t able to take possession of it until October as the old woman needed the time to pack up and move to Arizona to live with her daughter. By then Marc and I were together but he didn’t move in until the following year.
I loved this house on sight. It was about a hundred years old when I bought it and was in good shape, solid, built of first cut timber with shiplap on all the interior walls which was so hard you couldn't hammer a nail into it, had to drill a little hole first; three bedrooms, two baths, 10’ ceilings, 10” baseboards, lots of windows with diamond mullions, deep eaves, hardwood floors; the plumbing was old and Marc spent many years under the house repairing broken pipes, the wiring was inadequate such that in one part of the house if too many things were on I would blow the breaker when I tried to vacuum, and drafty with no insulation. After the first winter or two we put insulation in the attic. But I loved that 1,250 square foot house. We got married in that house, it sheltered us, we raised our two children in that house, we operated our studio out of the two car garage.
We finally sold it in 2014 for many reasons…nearly 40 years of living hand to mouth on an artist’s income was not good for an old house that needed more attention than we could afford, the ignored inner city neighborhood was getting gentrified and property taxes were becoming unaffordable, the new people moving in felt us long time residents were bringing their property values down, and we basically had been living and working under the radar of the city and the neighborhood was coming under the scrutiny of city inspectors with all the new construction…but those of you who have been reading here for a long time know how hard it was for me to let go of it even though we were spending less and less time here. We had moved out to the house we're in now, coming in only three days a week to work in the studio when we had work.
We sold the property to a small home builder who promised to move the house off the property if possible (it wasn’t), promised to save the trees and build a single family home (he didn’t). He tore the house down but was overextended I guess because he sat on the property for a year and then sold it to a developer who clear cut the lot cutting down all the trees including the 30+ year old magnolia we had planted, and built two ugly lot line townhouses.
mid-1980s, daughter Sarah standing by the front door.
2003
Also 2003, the backyard and the small extension off the garage/studio which we had just finished rebuilding one wall at a time because termites had eaten the bottom 12” of the frame and the only thing holding the walls up was the sheetrock and metal siding.
2012, we were living out in Wharton by then coming in only to work and our son and daughter-in-law had moved into the main part of the house after we closed off part of it for a little apartment while we were there.
2014, the year we sold it.
This is from the post back in 2014 after we had gutted the shop, moved Big Mama, dug up plants or taken cuttings, hauled away every brick, paver, and concrete mortar block, and were leaving the house for the very last time.
“I walked through the house, my last time, and touched the walls and thanked it for giving us shelter and holding our family together. We weathered three direct hit hurricanes over the years in that house with nary a creak. I apologized for not taking better care of it and for abandoning it. I told it I loved it. Then I walked out and closed the door.”
This is a love story. And I would have felt exactly the same way about that house. I would have loved it.
ReplyDeleteI imagine you feel the same way about the house you are in now.
DeleteI remember. Made me cry then & makes me cry now, although I love where you live now.
ReplyDeleteIt still makes me cry to think of it too.
DeleteVery poignantly done.
ReplyDeleteit was heartbreaking.
DeleteThis is a lovely post. Leaving our first home was hard on me. There are just so many memories you make in a home. Counseling helped me talk through some of the hard times. The most important thing though is family. Gratefully, that travels with you regardless of the home you live in. Thanks for sharing this beautiful post.
ReplyDeleteI still dream about that house sometimes. and my daughter and her family who had lived next door to us did follow us physically about five years later. not next door anymore but in the same small town.
DeleteI was just thinking too, you couldn’t renovate a kitchen for what you paid for the whole house in 1975!
ReplyDeleteand nine years later we bought a four door Volvo sedan for $14,000; almost as much as the house.
DeleteFirst houses are the best houses, I think. We rented our "first" house and wanted to buy it when the old woman put it on the market. She wanted 20,000 for it and we offered 18,000. She refused, so we bought another house. She wound up selling it for 16,000. Just as well; there was no kindergarten there. The house was beautiful, last time I saw it. The new owners put a lot of money into it.
ReplyDeleteI wish my old house could have been saved but termites had had their way with it and the plumbing was getting worse and worse among other problems. at the time it would have cost about $40,000 to do everything it needed, money that we didn't have until we sold it.
DeleteIt's a lovely house! And it has lived with you. I admire your courage buying it so young and self employed.
ReplyDeleteLooks a bit like the bungalow we lived in when we were in Africa, which was far less sophisticated that this house, obviously, but had a veranda and plants like yours.
it helped that Marc had a good job and we managed on our combined income. I should have added that we got married in that house. the porch originally went all the way across but one of the previous owners remodeled it and took in half to make the living room bigger. I probably should have dug out some photos of the inside.
DeleteI'd never seen pictures of this house before, unless perhaps in passing. That said, it looks a good bit like I'd imagined it, only better. I had a friend who finally left her thrice-flooded house along the rail line in West U, and the experience of helping her make that move was much like you describe here. That experience of closing a door for the last time is one that's never forgotten.
ReplyDeletethere are some things in my life that were very hard to do. walking out that door for the last time is one of them.
DeleteYou got a lot of life out of that house. I've never felt that way about a house.
ReplyDeleteI really like the house we're in now and where it is but I don't love it like I did my first house.
DeleteYour first house was so cute. I know I would have loved living there. I'm sorry you had to sell it and that the person who bought it from you didn't tell you the truth about what he planned to do with it. I know you never would have sold to him had you known.
ReplyDeleteto be fair, he did look into getting the house moved but there were two main problems...either the camphor tree or the magnolia tree would have to be cut down and the power lines were on our side of the street and would entail having to cut off part of the roof. it just wasn't possible. as for selling the property, he was in a financial bind. can't really blame him.
DeleteI remember when you sold that house. I'm sorry it eventually got torn down and the lot cleared. Developers are the worst -- it's all about profit, profit, profit. I wonder if the neighbors were annoyed?
ReplyDeletemine wasn't the first house that got torn down and lot line townhouses crammed on the lot on our block. three or four other properties had already succumbed although not next to me. I admit I would not have been happy.
DeleteI love my current home like that. It is far from perfect, but the fact that I have scrounged and saved while in the RV park business and was able to buy it outright with no mortgage makes it all the more special. I know this will be my last home and I chose it with that in mind. He-Who has no such feelings about it, He would have preferred beachfront property. I doubt I would have found any peace on a beach with others around every day. I value my solitude. Just wish I had an oven!!
ReplyDeleteSuch a beautiful story of home and memories! It's amazing how much love and effort went into that place. I just shared a blog post, let me know what you think.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful reflection on your home and the memories it holds. It's so tough to let go of a place with so much history. I hope the new place is bringing you peace. I just shared a blog post, let me know what you think.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely home you had and what a sad ending for it. I am hopeless at letting go. I often dream about the house where I was born but have only been back once to see it. How it had shrunk! My father had bought an acre of land in the 1930's and built the house surrounded with gardens and orchard. I can remember that when I was old enough to realize that I was expected to grow up and leave at some future point I was very upset at the thought of leaving the orchard! I get regular photos of the cottage that we left a couple of years ago. The young family who live there now are very happy and send news of their improvements. I don't always want to know! But I am very happy with the pleasure they are getting in making it their own.
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