tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post6875183247435687532..comments2024-03-28T08:18:57.280-05:00Comments on stuff from ellen's head: painellen abbotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-75523558801077106482010-12-07T01:08:26.714-06:002010-12-07T01:08:26.714-06:00So sorry to hear about your BIL. You and your fami...So sorry to hear about your BIL. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.Margueritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15846051579802335412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-39457607547409964832010-12-06T04:22:10.947-06:002010-12-06T04:22:10.947-06:00I'm sorry for you and your family Ellen.
I too...I'm sorry for you and your family Ellen.<br />I too have a very high tolerance for pain.. and expect all those around me to do the same... it almost cost my youngest boy his life.... not his tolerance.. but my insistence that he needed to buck up and shut up.<br /><br />By the time his girlfriend took him to the hospital... they filmed his gallbladder surgery for teaching purposes... there was scar tissue wrapped around his liver.<br /><br />I have since tried to be more compassionate.@elohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15974297923741455898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-35198851222395581622010-12-05T19:56:00.198-06:002010-12-05T19:56:00.198-06:00Oh Ellen dear, I am so sorry for what you, your fa...Oh Ellen dear, I am so sorry for what you, your family and of course Mike are going through. We do tend to try to be stoic about pain & changes in our physical well-being. My thoughts are with you & yours. Sending hope. CherylCheryl Catohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13294358830518520566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-31410465023393867032010-12-05T14:43:33.406-06:002010-12-05T14:43:33.406-06:00I've only just caught up with this thread of p...I've only just caught up with this thread of posts. I'm so sorry about all of this, it is profoundly crap. Take care and make the most of the time you have with Mike.Madame DeFargehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08172239340844485940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-36020508833534448042010-12-05T12:12:07.245-06:002010-12-05T12:12:07.245-06:00'm so sorry for your brother and all of you in...'m so sorry for your brother and all of you in the family.<br />At least they will manage his pain. <br />I've known people in their last days in a hospice feel so well - due to pain management - that they thought they were actually getting better.<br /><br />When Beloved first starting moaning about the pain in his shoulder I didn't think much of it. And then I saw the x-ray. Now I believe him.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-52351888308533932952010-12-05T11:03:31.878-06:002010-12-05T11:03:31.878-06:00Hopefully things make a turn for the better — for ...Hopefully things make a turn for the better — for all of you.Sarah Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054477978470497670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-85254613483619909142010-12-05T08:35:49.323-06:002010-12-05T08:35:49.323-06:00I would respond to each of you individually but es...I would respond to each of you individually but essentially I would be saying the same thing. Thank you so much for all the love and support and understanding. I can't tell you how much it means to me. If anything good comes out of this it will be that I am a little more understanding and compassionate towards those who suffer what I cannot see.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-19836127729336001762010-12-05T08:35:43.213-06:002010-12-05T08:35:43.213-06:00I just read through your last couple of posts and ...I just read through your last couple of posts and am so sorry to hear about your brother-in-law's condition. Life takes such very sad turns sometimes, I'm sure these days with him mean much to you and your family. Take care ...Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972054718663959694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-20313368606855692632010-12-05T05:40:08.177-06:002010-12-05T05:40:08.177-06:00This is very interesting, Ellen. I'm like you ...This is very interesting, Ellen. I'm like you with high pain tolerance, and I do sometimes find myself judging those with low pain tolerance, which is utterly ridiculous, but so it is. It's a very good point you observe, that pain is internal, and only visible for how it affects people, like how the wind is invisible except for how it moves things.<br /><br />My nephew is doing his residency now in pain management, in particular for infants, something that had never occurred to me. <br /><br />Just a couple days ago I had such severe sinus pain for about 12 hours, I didn't know how I could stand it. And I contemplated chronic pain that so many suffer from. I'm sorry about your brother-in-law, so sorry.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204074161539605133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-84411753488064149202010-12-05T05:16:30.216-06:002010-12-05T05:16:30.216-06:00My thoughts are with you and your family. This is...My thoughts are with you and your family. This is never easy.<br /><br />We were raised to be tough and ignore the pain and so we do. We work through it, ignore it, rarely mention it and keep on going. So far, we, the sisters, have been fortunate that our pain is only that of aging and perhaps doing things we shouldn't.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-29964991985134376882010-12-05T04:49:58.301-06:002010-12-05T04:49:58.301-06:00What a blessing that you can spend this time with ...What a blessing that you can spend this time with him! <br />I have a high tolerance for pain as well and I tend to be tough on those that don't. I don't mean to be so judgmental...but it seeps out! Sigh!<br />I pray for tolerance!!<br />Hugs<br />SueAnnSueannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299288406218968621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-21178830435889858612010-12-05T02:34:08.012-06:002010-12-05T02:34:08.012-06:00In my family we are physically tough. When my boyf...In my family we are physically tough. When my boyfriend was sick while we were visiting there, I could see the "he's weak" written on their faces, especially my paternal grandfather. It made me furious, because they didn't know how ill he really was. <br /><br />It is so difficult to try and imagine someone else's pain. It's almost like we have to stop what we are doing and switch our mind to a place of empathy and understanding. <br /><br />I hope the hospital makes your brother in law as comfortable as possible.PurestGreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10860331983741242940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-27525935452264888652010-12-04T22:40:44.774-06:002010-12-04T22:40:44.774-06:00Oh dear, this is so difficult to take. There are s...Oh dear, this is so difficult to take. There are so many pains for which doctors don't have any explanation, or long term prognosis. I do hope your relative gets better while you are still with him.Rosaria Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133147851332084180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-56595706214667371692010-12-04T20:55:19.302-06:002010-12-04T20:55:19.302-06:00Oh Ellen, bless your heart. What you are doing is ...Oh Ellen, bless your heart. What you are doing is so hard. I have done it and know how hard it is to watch someone you care about suffer. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-43113957269472549512010-12-04T20:53:20.397-06:002010-12-04T20:53:20.397-06:00it's so hard and unlikely that we can be sensi...it's so hard and unlikely that we can be sensitive to the details of people's experiencing of life - physical, emotional, whatever - given pain's invisibility in all its manifestations - all entirely invisible. be kind to yourself ellen. stevenstevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132104804524716898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-61181705569170749572010-12-04T20:32:59.044-06:002010-12-04T20:32:59.044-06:00I am so sorry for all of your family's sufferi...I am so sorry for all of your family's suffering. There are no other words that mean as much as when one soul says to another...I care and I am right here. Your family is doing your best work right now. Blessings, The Olde Bagg, LindaOmaLindasOldeBaggsandStuftShirtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09589622524456973822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-83198993085740631112010-12-04T20:17:01.069-06:002010-12-04T20:17:01.069-06:00Ah, Ellen...would that I could ease your burden. I...Ah, Ellen...would that I could ease your burden. I am grateful that you have shared your story with such candor. Have you ever listened to a podcast of Speaking of Faith with Krista Tippitt (it's now called On Being). She conducted an extraordinary interview with Thich Naht Hanh during which he spoke about suffering and compassion. May you find some measure of comfort here:<br /><br />http://download.publicradio.org/podcast/speakingoffaith/20080410_thichnhathanh.mp3?_kip_ipx=2054474072-1291515355Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372015226222285350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-4915988087180186822010-12-04T20:07:39.263-06:002010-12-04T20:07:39.263-06:00Speaking as someone who is super sensitive to just...Speaking as someone who is super sensitive to just about everything, including pain, medicines, noise, light, smells, you name it, I know very well that those who don't process things this way think people like me are just whiney prima donnas. <br /><br />I'm very sorry about your ill family member, Ellen. That's so hard on everyone. My thoughts are with you my friend.Fireblossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07040525704916368792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-19240448027357967922010-12-04T19:14:08.197-06:002010-12-04T19:14:08.197-06:00So sorry that your family is facing this difficult...So sorry that your family is facing this difficult time...no one can understand what another is going through...we keep trying and always do the best we can even if it's not enough...will keep all of you in my thoughts...Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14414361079501574872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-41323439142287140402010-12-04T19:13:49.386-06:002010-12-04T19:13:49.386-06:00Staying with someone in the hospital is so importa...Staying with someone in the hospital is so important. I've been in them and know all too well that just having someone there does so much.<br /><br />I also sat with my Dad in the hospital. He went in on Dec. 1st and past away on the 26th. This was twenty years ago. We took turns. On my day, I brought my needlepoint and helped as best I could. <br /><br />I'm so glad I did stay and sit with him. <br /><br />Pain ... of could I talk about that one. My pain level was a 15 or more. I went to pain clinics for help. My Dr's were amazed when they saw what was going on with my back. Today, it's the mind game that I do. And, today I am winning.<br /><br />Hugs to you,JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13434534658681194289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-63841480695704112592010-12-04T19:05:02.898-06:002010-12-04T19:05:02.898-06:00My mom might be alive today if she had paid better...My mom might be alive today if she had paid better attention to her pain. On the other hand, her first doctor diagnosed diverticulitus instead of the football sized tumor that was on her kidney, so maybe not. <br /><br />I on the other had will question every ache & pain - maybe because of my mom's experience. I'd rather someone thought I was a hypochondriac (and I am) than to miss something important. <br /><br />I'm glad you're taking this time with your BIL - it will be important to you later that you did.The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-26266058635630570252010-12-04T18:25:05.934-06:002010-12-04T18:25:05.934-06:00I wish there was something that could be done to e...I wish there was something that could be done to ease your (and your family's) emotional pain, Ellen. Sending my best thoughts your way. I'm so sorry you and yours are going through this.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-69063261121956778072010-12-04T17:52:48.193-06:002010-12-04T17:52:48.193-06:00I'm so sorry to hear that your brother-in-law&...I'm so sorry to hear that your brother-in-law's problems are apparently terminal. I will keep him in my thoughts.<br /><br />I have lived with pain of some sort for about 16 years now. I guess I've gotten so used to it that it doesn't really register anymore. It just is what my life is. It does get depressing at times that I can't remember what I used to be like. But I am luccky. Until the knee injury, I was able to at least move around well. Now I have a slight limp most of the time and I can't get down on my knees to clean the floor or stuff like that....insomniac ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12961971148329383127noreply@blogger.com