tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post5316833094348192166..comments2024-03-18T20:21:19.356-05:00Comments on stuff from ellen's head: F is for...ellen abbotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-53115827188014250012011-03-20T02:01:27.071-05:002011-03-20T02:01:27.071-05:00Congrats on POTW!Congrats on POTW!Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-9707907059813721152011-03-16T09:10:23.369-05:002011-03-16T09:10:23.369-05:00what a great potw :) friendship is something i'...what a great potw :) friendship is something i've struggled with... 7 years ago, when i moved to get married @ 40, i assumed it would be so fun to meet new friends - what a shock it was to realize most women i wanted to connect with were too busy or too settled in 'safe' friendships, i'm not so safe, like you, telling the truth & hearing the truth feeds me and seems to repel many! but i sure do cherish those few who seem to also be attracted to elephants ♥<br /><br />i'm grateful to have found the blogworld, where new friendships are growing ✻Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-13793867152929779562011-03-16T09:03:38.094-05:002011-03-16T09:03:38.094-05:00I tend to groan without realizing it when I hear s...I tend to groan without realizing it when I hear something annoying. Tell it like it is, it can't be any better.Out on the prairiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09548162534362532705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-82914736735146984392011-03-16T03:22:19.377-05:002011-03-16T03:22:19.377-05:00Congrats on your POTW award Ellen!!
Well deserved!...Congrats on your POTW award Ellen!!<br />Well deserved!!!<br />Hugging you<br />SueAnnSueannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299288406218968621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-87149080818311026522011-03-12T13:55:11.155-06:002011-03-12T13:55:11.155-06:00Such truth here. Well said.Such truth here. Well said.Merihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07024443046207501650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-86895097199616675552011-03-11T15:46:37.930-06:002011-03-11T15:46:37.930-06:00This is a great group, and let me be blunt: I con...This is a great group, and let me be blunt: I consider you a friend, Ellen.Sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18245301334922883500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-92015176379182484752011-03-11T08:33:45.614-06:002011-03-11T08:33:45.614-06:00I'm in your scattered group
I love that last l...I'm in your scattered group<br />I love that last line<br />I feel the same wayDiannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-6660942328089459302011-03-11T04:27:18.303-06:002011-03-11T04:27:18.303-06:00No doubt about it Ellen. Nice post.No doubt about it Ellen. Nice post.SkippyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479661523059481730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-59630918615341217762011-03-10T22:02:00.262-06:002011-03-10T22:02:00.262-06:00Oh Ellen - hugs. And a couple of really good frien...Oh Ellen - hugs. And a couple of really good friends is much better than the clique. That's one of the good parts of growing up, realizing you don't want to be part of the group. I'll bet that 99% of us think we're socially inept. If you've any self-consciousness at all, it's impossible not to. The 1% who don't are narcissists. <br />But you've got a wonderful group of friends going here! ;)Jaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06694559900539722616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-88307843511634784152011-03-10T16:39:43.363-06:002011-03-10T16:39:43.363-06:00You and me both, mate.
Perhaps we in blogland cho...You and me both, mate.<br /><br />Perhaps we in blogland choose the people we can be virtual friends with. A blogging buddy and I had a long phone call yesterday and we agreed that we can be a lot more open with each other in this medium because we can say things from a distance. I'd never have told any of that group on my recent outing how lonely I felt. yet I had no hesitation trumpeting it for all of blogland to read.<br /><br />I rarely have friends, Beloved is my best friend. There is one friend I see once in ten ears, but we write and phone. When I told her a long time ago that I'm not much of a friend and that I frequently find something to dislike about many people, she explained that we make different friends for different purposes.<br /><br />Sadly, I still don't get it.<br />Like you, my failing is being blunt and brusque to boot. Never works. Besides, I find most people bore me after a while.<br /><br />Are you glad you never need to meet me? I bet we would find something to talk about.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-54970961403186226322011-03-10T13:20:06.274-06:002011-03-10T13:20:06.274-06:00I can identify with the irony of being very friend...I can identify with the irony of being very friendly with people through one's career but less gregarious in normal circumstances. Enjoyed this post about our online associations too.Paul Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01836602667355512504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-39901427009431699342011-03-10T12:17:28.199-06:002011-03-10T12:17:28.199-06:00Remember you are at the top of my Eclectic Circle ...Remember you are at the top of my Eclectic Circle ;-)<br /><br />I am very blunt too, and that makes certain people (many) fell uneasy around me. I actually had a person in my life who I truly appreciated (still do), but who told she couldn't be friends anymore because there were times when she needed me to lie a little and I was incapable "of showing that much compassion." I know what she meant, but I don't agree. It might be what works for her, but I would never lie to a friend to make them feel good about themselves. I will tell them the truth and offer a shoulder to lean on or a set of arms ready to embrace, but lies? No, that doesn't work.<br /><br />I love the friends I have, even if they are all over the world, and some of them I might never see face-to-face.Magaly Guerrerohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18295455026184103230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-39046270820166936782011-03-10T10:47:09.074-06:002011-03-10T10:47:09.074-06:00I thought it was just a German quality to be blunt...I thought it was just a German quality to be blunt and direct! (English and Swiss people tell us so - or rather they don`t, haha). I call it honesty, but you are right, some people don`t like it (do I? Yes, most of the time, if it is said kinda nicely). <br />Since we moved to this island, I am so glad for my internet friends, even if we have never met in person. Blogland sure has become like a family, one where you can CHOOSE your relatives, how lovely! Cheers from your distant German cousin.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06484336744673299416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-58661459885914486382011-03-10T08:43:55.889-06:002011-03-10T08:43:55.889-06:00I love this - in part because I have the same affl...I love this - in part because I have the same affliction about groups (except for this group of far-flung clan), also in part because I love the friends who will blurt out unpleasant truths. I would much rather hear it than sense what will never be said. <br /><br />I trust people who speak bluntly, Ellen. I trust you.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-66619046508702776542011-03-10T05:37:58.966-06:002011-03-10T05:37:58.966-06:00I certainly consider us friends for sure Ellen!! ...I certainly consider us friends for sure Ellen!! I feel we are definitely kindred spirits!!<br />I am not very social either. I have one friend that I "do" things with. I just can't do a crowd...too hard for me. So I don't do it! I tried and I became overwhelmed.<br />I have learned to keep my mouth shut though...people just don't want to know my opinion! Ha! So I don't give one...even if asked. I duck and dodge the question.<br />I don't mind being alone. I have many things to do art wise and my time is precious to me.<br />Loving you girlfriend!!<br />Hugs<br />SueAnnSueannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299288406218968621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-37185165388273557372011-03-09T22:42:44.899-06:002011-03-09T22:42:44.899-06:00I admit, I consider many in the blog world in my c...I admit, I consider many in the blog world in my circle. I think of their stories and check in to see how they are. I have had tears for some and laughed with others. <br /><br />I am very social, but have only a handful of very close friends. Relationships are time consuming and my times is so limited, as is everyone's. I will say the relationships I have are really precious and honest. <br /><br />The nice piece about blogging is we check in when we can at any hour. And the visit is never rude, but always welcomed. <br /><br />Thanks for checking in on me :)!Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-58980726094277767632011-03-09T22:36:10.117-06:002011-03-09T22:36:10.117-06:00great distances I think are all in ones perspectiv...great distances I think are all in ones perspective and can't be judged in miles for me....my friends are who I feel close to no matter the physical distance. But like you, I have always been seen as affible but I am a crumudgeon at heart... and should be alone most of the time (don't play well with others) do appreciate honesty but sometimes have to recover from it.......and still... I know you and I are friends. The Olde Bagg, LindaOmaLindasOldeBaggsandStuftShirtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09589622524456973822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-26685705478793751992011-03-09T21:33:57.090-06:002011-03-09T21:33:57.090-06:00Damn! You girlfren, are a good writer!
To me, the...Damn! You girlfren, are a good writer! <br />To me, the measure of a good friend, is one who is quick to empathize, encourage, to kick your butt when you need it, and slow to judge. <br />I've had friends drift into and out of my life. I've learned from most of them. <br />Sometimes the truth is hard to swallow and it seems natural to slay the messenger. But I can count on one hand the friends who've had the courage to tell me something they knew I didn't want to hear. I consider them my best friends.Rick Watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01005727239466916086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-52971501749204093132011-03-09T20:03:50.370-06:002011-03-09T20:03:50.370-06:00:-)
People don't believe me when I tell them ...:-)<br /><br />People don't believe me when I tell them I have hermit-like tendencies, but I do. I'm not a "team" person, I'm not a joiner.<br /><br />I have made a lot of friends online, and I like that.<br /><br />PearlPearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-37650955133540782412011-03-09T19:58:18.763-06:002011-03-09T19:58:18.763-06:00Mike got me a plaque for my desk at work that said...Mike got me a plaque for my desk at work that said, "Do I LOOK like a people person?" I worked in Human Resources at the time. Heh.<br /><br />I am a terrible friend because I just don't put in the effort. I never call. All my friends live far away. But when we get together it's like those miles & months never existed. <br /><br />I often think I should get out more - but, meh - I'll just come here instead :)<br /><br />P.S. total NON poker face - gets me in trouble ALL the time.The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-16603437643413528902011-03-09T11:20:19.184-06:002011-03-09T11:20:19.184-06:00Great post! I'm sure most people can relate t...Great post! I'm sure most people can relate to this in some part or another - if not all of it. Take a friendly, stone dusty hug from here.Jennifer Tetlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05216669559770468403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-51879417086490960882011-03-09T10:47:50.729-06:002011-03-09T10:47:50.729-06:00Wow, you echo exactly my life. Living in the same ...Wow, you echo exactly my life. Living in the same town all of my life, I just took friendship for grated. Then we moved. Everything changed. it was not as easy to make friends when you are not attending children's functions, live in a different part of the country with different mores and implicit rules. Some old friends from home stayed with me, and some didn't. The ones that didn't took me by surprise - I thought we were better friends than we evidently were. Now that I'm back home I don't feel a big need to call people. I have my regulars and feel just fine not being part of a group any longer. But maybe, like you, I do have a group - they're just scattered throughout the Internet.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-51199114842892310582011-03-09T10:29:09.286-06:002011-03-09T10:29:09.286-06:00Oh Ellen- you are the best kind of friend to have-...Oh Ellen- you are the best kind of friend to have- call it like you see it, honest, no fake smiles, please...More trustworthy than the polite sort - when they make room for everybody it becomes a very crowded uncomfortable space. I don't know if age has anything to do with weeding out the "friendship" garden - I don't have time to cultivate the fragile spindly needy ones any more...and I don't feel I have the time for bullshite fertilizer.Linda Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070050388987072100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-40487781356260376872011-03-09T09:59:02.427-06:002011-03-09T09:59:02.427-06:00I've always been the quiet shy one in the crow...I've always been the quiet shy one in the crowd. Now, I'm the quiet observer in the group. <br /><br />I would rather have a few good friends instead of a lot of not so nice so called ones.JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13434534658681194289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-66774128434625367472011-03-09T09:50:31.122-06:002011-03-09T09:50:31.122-06:00Wonderful post, Ellen. I know a couple of folks li...Wonderful post, Ellen. I know a couple of folks like you, who refer to themselves as anti-social but would have others scratching their heads and that description. <br /><br />And you're right.. there are so many who don't appreciate having the elephants pointed out but at the same time would say that they demand honesty in a friendship. Hard to win with some folks, I suppose.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.com