tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post4415091624524420963..comments2024-03-28T08:18:57.280-05:00Comments on stuff from ellen's head: the acceptance of agingellen abbotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-5362583329101037022011-10-23T08:39:51.186-05:002011-10-23T08:39:51.186-05:00Sigh.. I know the feeling all too well. Mirrors an...Sigh.. I know the feeling all too well. Mirrors and photographs are eye-openers.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-90505478992562593452011-10-22T06:19:24.108-05:002011-10-22T06:19:24.108-05:00Wonderfully said!
I know now why some old people ...Wonderfully said!<br /><br />I know now why some old people covered their mirrors.<br /><br />I like the idea of shedding my skin. Tis sad that the young woman inside me still thinks she can do all things...that has been the hardest part of growing older for me.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-19482737060920416942011-10-21T12:26:17.800-05:002011-10-21T12:26:17.800-05:00Ugh. I'm trying to tell that face that looks b...Ugh. I'm trying to tell that face that looks back at me every morning that I love it. After all - it looks like my grandmother and I loved her...Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-80441155723545572732011-10-21T06:17:58.497-05:002011-10-21T06:17:58.497-05:00I can't even go there--don't want to think...I can't even go there--don't want to think about it even. I better get off my --- and go to the gym.R. J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10291839202970032184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-49509710750025339902011-10-20T11:23:58.518-05:002011-10-20T11:23:58.518-05:00The secret to beautiful skin, at any age, comes fr...The secret to beautiful skin, at any age, comes from the inside out. Lots of fruits and veggies, and anti-oxidant foods, plus a good vitamin for hair, skin, and nails. (I use one from G.N.C.) And of course, working out. If not at the gym, then, at home, to keep the skin and muscles toned. It takes work, but it can be done. :)Margueritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15846051579802335412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-76401233141505845352011-10-20T09:58:53.052-05:002011-10-20T09:58:53.052-05:00Not there, but hope I live long enough to be. Yes,...Not there, but hope I live long enough to be. Yes, skin rejuvenation would be nice :)!Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-72993361598320592712011-10-20T03:36:35.534-05:002011-10-20T03:36:35.534-05:00I find not wearing my specs when looking at myself...I find not wearing my specs when looking at myself in the mirror helps.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-14663198821454834282011-10-19T19:47:59.201-05:002011-10-19T19:47:59.201-05:00It's hard to reconcile. But there it is.It's hard to reconcile. But there it is.Fireblossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07040525704916368792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-24833238112786112682011-10-19T19:00:26.286-05:002011-10-19T19:00:26.286-05:00yep--never thought I would feel that way but it is...yep--never thought I would feel that way but it is so true...trying to motivate my mind into seeing with compassion rather than criticism...C.M. Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06936560662110633442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-27672691332852470822011-10-19T18:35:10.195-05:002011-10-19T18:35:10.195-05:00Well put, Ellen. I'll be turning 65 next month...Well put, Ellen. I'll be turning 65 next month and have been noticing these same things happening to my body. I have that same roll around my mid-section and just can't get rid of it. Like you I'm not going to the gym & haven't been on a regular basis since I hurt my hip last February. <br />I don't mind the sun spots on my arms as much as I mind the crepe-paper skin. I keep thinking that working in the yard replaces the gym, but maybe not... or maybe there is no hope for reversing some of the damage. <br />I'm just happy to be here!Cheryl Catohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13294358830518520566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-58495545319187710522011-10-19T17:24:36.840-05:002011-10-19T17:24:36.840-05:00This post strikes many nerves with me, thanks for ...This post strikes many nerves with me, thanks for your honesty. I'm struggling with the image in the mirror too, wondering who I am and where I went. Menopause messed me up pretty good in my mid 40's and I'm in the early 50's now hoping for a sea change, for more pleasant phase to commence. I'm 2 inches shorter and 5 pounds heavier than you, and I'm starting to resemble my grandmother. I try to remember the twinkle in her eyes and her joyful demeanor and try not to be a cranky and depressing crone.<br />I don't believe what anyone says - our skin does what it does, and no amount of lotions or scrubbing or treatments can stop the march of time. My dermatologist told me there is nothing you can put on the outside of your skin that can change what happens to it as we age. I think of lotions now as touch therapy and smell goods for me, and surrender to the wrinkling thin skin. But I can't look at my hands anymore, or my feet, or I will start to hyperventilate.<br />There is no easy way to age, gracefully or otherwise. My Dad always said getting old beat the alternative, and I'm trying to stay positive like him, but some days are easier than others.<br />Thanks for your honesty. I like to know what's coming at me.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114884092474969555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-5046319769570107132011-10-19T15:57:19.824-05:002011-10-19T15:57:19.824-05:00i look at bodies as collections of awards and meda...i look at bodies as collections of awards and medals, experiences written in the texture of the skin, the folds containing hidden stories. for example - stretch marks - the story of the journey of my beautiful children silvered and smooth on my wife's belly. stevenstevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132104804524716898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-57250252573643913452011-10-19T12:57:15.044-05:002011-10-19T12:57:15.044-05:00Getting old is so much fun ... not. I do sometimes...Getting old is so much fun ... not. I do sometimes look in the mirror and wonder where I went.JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13434534658681194289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-33456739005461139492011-10-19T12:56:42.649-05:002011-10-19T12:56:42.649-05:00a good honest post. at 48, i started seeing a dif...a good honest post. at 48, i started seeing a different person looking back at me, and my skin doesn't snap back into shape as i lose weight now. still reconciling this phase...TexWisGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641962051044162710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-53644553192429980602011-10-19T12:37:19.236-05:002011-10-19T12:37:19.236-05:00Hmm - I probably have more gray hair than you do (...Hmm - I probably have more gray hair than you do (should I ever decide to stop coloring my hair). It's a legacy of my grandmother who was completely gray by the time I was born. <br /><br />One advantage of carrying extra weight is that my wrinkles are kind of plumped smooth - but that's the only advantage. I'll be 50 in 2 1/2 years - I'd like to enter that decade with less fat & more wrinkles! And maybe a completely gray head :)The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-89133133439394151762011-10-19T12:14:27.028-05:002011-10-19T12:14:27.028-05:00I don't like gyms, with all of those contrapti...I don't like gyms, with all of those contraptions resembling devices of torture. So that's why I'm out running/walking trails almost every day. Cheaper than a gym too. I still have a muffin top, though, and maybe it is just a part of being 62. Or too many glasses of wine.<br /><br />I've noticed that when my hand shows up in a picture it looks incredibly ancient; I think the photo makes it worse. It's the photo, not the hand!Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281288495129054688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-58480266018941832432011-10-19T11:41:02.143-05:002011-10-19T11:41:02.143-05:00Ah, the crone years...if we are lucky, we'll a...Ah, the crone years...if we are lucky, we'll all get there and wonder who is that person in the mirror...<br /><br />You might try doing some exercise tapes in your living room...any exercise would be good for you and tighten things up again if that's what you are after...<br /><br />I also was a gym goer in late 30's and 40's...then the situation changed...it was okay until mid 50's when menopause hit and I gained so many pounds...wow...still working on getting rid of those...crones should warn each other that the pounds will cling to your body during menopause...you young ladies remember that; it's important...Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14414361079501574872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-87326486952860464552011-10-19T11:08:06.934-05:002011-10-19T11:08:06.934-05:00This morning I noticed the lone gray hair I had on...This morning I noticed the lone gray hair I had on the middle of my head, close to my hairline, has found a few companions; two, I think, maybe three...<br /><br />It made me smile and it made thoughtful too. I smiled because my Piano Man says "You'll so beautifull witchy when you get some grays." And it made me thoughtful because my grandma's hair was completely white at the end of her many decades; a cloud of curls... "I'm beginning to look like her." I said to myself. And wondered if I will be as wise as she was.Magaly Guerrerohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18295455026184103230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-10041786185984824572011-10-19T10:54:31.694-05:002011-10-19T10:54:31.694-05:00Okay Ellen, so here's my question to you. Loo...Okay Ellen, so here's my question to you. Looking back, would you have done anything differently that might have altered the physical place you're in now? Or do you think the changes would be there regardless?Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972054718663959694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-18926938325620806422011-10-19T10:51:21.225-05:002011-10-19T10:51:21.225-05:00Body wash, scrub and moisturize my friend. It work...Body wash, scrub and moisturize my friend. It works.<br /> <br />I am only 45, but since I was diagnosed I am limited to what I can do via exercise and keeping my body toned. I, too, am not fat at 5'8, 128 lbs, but my stomach lets me know "Yes Skippy - you have given birth four times and sit ups are no longer an option." It can get depressing, sort of, but what are you going to do? <br /> <br />I just thank my lucky stars I don't have to replace my clothing [yay! still fits!] and my husband and kids love me for who I am and not what I look like. <br /> <br />Then I grab my bottle of Advanced Therapy Suave Body lotion and try to get rid of the dryness. My MIL is 79, but has the softest skin because she does it everyday. It's amazing.<br /> <br />Please promise me if I get to 61, at least my face will stop breaking out? I feel like I am still in high school. :)SkippyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479661523059481730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-8165619233687112532011-10-19T10:30:05.780-05:002011-10-19T10:30:05.780-05:00There it is. I was perfectly fine up until 60 and ...There it is. I was perfectly fine up until 60 and actually thought I looked better than ever in my 50's. Not so any longer. I'm not into any of the artificial stuff either and actually like gray hair but that tube around the middle? Oh well.Rubye Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02511953177053448513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-50886993841321472562011-10-19T10:27:12.074-05:002011-10-19T10:27:12.074-05:00When I talk I hear such a young voice still.It is ...When I talk I hear such a young voice still.It is looking into the mirror that is hard sometimes.Out on the prairiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09548162534362532705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-71648114058027270322011-10-19T10:23:49.411-05:002011-10-19T10:23:49.411-05:00Ellen, I feel as if you climbed into my head yeste...Ellen, I feel as if you climbed into my head <i>yesterday</i> and wrote down my thoughts. I am 55, I'm facing this too. I had a long conversation with a female colleague at work who already went through her acceptance of this transition. I'm not quite there yet, and I find myself working out as often as I can. The thing is, that seems to only keep extra pounds at bay and not attack the "loss of waist" and thicker thighs. It's like I am saying to my body, <i>do not go gentle into that good night</i>!Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204074161539605133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-82886865350914100662011-10-19T10:23:45.634-05:002011-10-19T10:23:45.634-05:00same page, my darling...I don't know who this ...same page, my darling...I don't know who this woman is occupying my body! I think it's my mother...Linda Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070050388987072100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-8239379931176465622011-10-19T10:07:38.543-05:002011-10-19T10:07:38.543-05:00Yep. I relate, too.Yep. I relate, too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08139599163464020063noreply@blogger.com