tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post1624589626628231511..comments2024-03-28T08:18:57.280-05:00Comments on stuff from ellen's head: another one downellen abbotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-52836411477834415352010-09-28T11:14:00.662-05:002010-09-28T11:14:00.662-05:00David has been a good son for a long time and need...David has been a good son for a long time and needs some time to transition to a new place. MadameButterfly's observation about him is right on.Merihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07024443046207501650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-53620361966737256352010-09-28T08:42:38.553-05:002010-09-28T08:42:38.553-05:00Sweet tradition. I like the part of putting the lo...Sweet tradition. I like the part of putting the loved one to bed. Usually folks leave before that part is done & it is left to strangers. <br />Maybe now David will find someone his own age with whom to share his life; to love & care for this person.Cheryl Catohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13294358830518520566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-15784524425509951512010-09-28T08:17:48.943-05:002010-09-28T08:17:48.943-05:00What a beautiful post about life, loving and death...What a beautiful post about life, loving and death. This is like the third post I've read in the past couple of days about an elderly person passing away and the legacy they left behind. I pray that David will find his direction for his life after all of these years of caregiving. It says so much about his character. <br /><br />I love this tradition of shoveling the dirt...I think it's a really neat concept. I am sorry about the loss of this woman. I like that your family celebrates all life cycles. XXLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04441204804740501624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-44610449974217697142010-09-28T00:01:52.003-05:002010-09-28T00:01:52.003-05:00Sorry for your loss. My mom just passed a month a...Sorry for your loss. My mom just passed a month ago. I imagine it will be hard for David for awhile, but time will march forward and bring him along. My family is a large one, too, and that gives me peace knowing someone will always be around to check on my dad. I moved a ways away unfortunately. Perhaps, there will be someone to look in on David for awhile as well.VM Sehy Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03832671940615894037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-2097737417901849432010-09-27T23:50:13.137-05:002010-09-27T23:50:13.137-05:00ohhhhhh.... ohhhh. That last line and the part abo...ohhhhhh.... ohhhh. That last line and the part about puttin a dear one to bed for the last time got me.Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-69400371595120234272010-09-27T15:52:31.977-05:002010-09-27T15:52:31.977-05:00You never really know what to say when a life is o...You never really know what to say when a life is over.. my condolences to you and yoursSYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133339104832835879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-22258120708569001462010-09-27T14:26:30.208-05:002010-09-27T14:26:30.208-05:00Condolences Ellen. Nice to read a post that not o...Condolences Ellen. Nice to read a post that not only offers a tribute to the one lost, but that thinks about the survivors and their changing path.Bonnie Zieman, M.Ed.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00282469017360136275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-7940593133160467652010-09-27T11:12:31.945-05:002010-09-27T11:12:31.945-05:00Thanks for writing about this - its a moving vigne...Thanks for writing about this - its a moving vignette about family & the rituals we have to go through. I'll be praying for David to find his way...The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-36798873885544509432010-09-27T09:53:43.634-05:002010-09-27T09:53:43.634-05:00What a lovely heart felt piece. Once you have been...What a lovely heart felt piece. Once you have been in the caretaker role it is daunting to find your "solo" legs. It will take as long as it takes for David. Life is always giving each of us opportunity to be part of something greater than ourselves and you wrote so beautifully about connectionality. The Olde BaggOmaLindasOldeBaggsandStuftShirtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09589622524456973822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-68298842336837449832010-09-27T07:53:37.273-05:002010-09-27T07:53:37.273-05:00A sad and poignant story, Ellen. Life takes us to...A sad and poignant story, Ellen. Life takes us to so many places, doesn't it, in the heart.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972054718663959694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-79154114145037475292010-09-27T06:42:24.395-05:002010-09-27T06:42:24.395-05:00This is such a beautiful post on so many levels.
...This is such a beautiful post on so many levels. <br /><br />I'm very sorry for your loss, and David's. <br /><br />I love it that you like to dance, love it that you like spreading the dirt at the funerals. As a gardener and earth whisperer, it is so right that you do so.<br /><br />L'chaim.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-66467074505067777852010-09-27T06:42:12.548-05:002010-09-27T06:42:12.548-05:00ellen, like you i come from an extremely small fam...ellen, like you i come from an extremely small family and so the rituals asociated with flying away have not been too deeply underscored with me. my wife comes from a much larger family and so of course there is always someone in poor health or flying away. so i have learned about that whole process primarily through letting go of good people whom i have known as people and not as relatives (does that make sense?) which in some ways is harder. thanks for this really insightful and thoughtful piece of writing. stevenstevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132104804524716898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-30326512397464309282010-09-27T06:19:44.406-05:002010-09-27T06:19:44.406-05:00I appreciate the openness with which you discuss t...I appreciate the openness with which you discuss these sorrowful moments, Ellen. More than 'stuff from ellen's head', your blog always speaks from the heart as well. Despite the sadness, David's example is uplifting; as too are simple rites like the ones you describe of the spreading of the dirt, the return to the earth. I read your blog regularly, but don't often comment on your blog posts. Today, though, I want you to know that there is someone thinking of you here in Spain, where large closely-connected families have always been the norm, now being frayed somewhat by changing customs, lifestyles and the slow remorseless toll of the passing on of our elders. Warm thoughts and strength to you, Ellen!Lorenzo — Alchemist's Pillowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07522265816460154722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-5026347022159908862010-09-27T05:59:41.092-05:002010-09-27T05:59:41.092-05:00Beautifully written, straight from your heart...Beautifully written, straight from your heart...Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-16290543417149061782010-09-27T04:32:39.382-05:002010-09-27T04:32:39.382-05:00I am so sorry for your loss!! And poor David...he...I am so sorry for your loss!! And poor David...he won't get his bearings for awhile. He needs to learn to dance again with a new partner...himself!! I will pray for him.<br />Hugs<br />SueAnnSueannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299288406218968621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-61729264441506766862010-09-27T00:51:34.759-05:002010-09-27T00:51:34.759-05:00You have written a very moving piece here - I had ...You have written a very moving piece here - I had always had a morbid fear of funerals (maybe the reminder of my own mortality) until I had to arrange Seans - now I understand them.<br /><br />David will be very lost - not now whilst everyone is there for him but in aweek or so when he gets up to make breakfast or say something that only someone very close can understand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-44493337715093487092010-09-27T00:25:44.912-05:002010-09-27T00:25:44.912-05:00Bless his heart - I can't even imagine Ellen -...Bless his heart - I can't even imagine Ellen - Good thoughts and prayers that he won't be lonely.<br />:/ Hug.SkippyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479661523059481730noreply@blogger.com