tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post1065093235526600920..comments2024-03-28T08:18:57.280-05:00Comments on stuff from ellen's head: Christmas pastellen abbotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-66164698685461047522009-12-29T18:31:37.619-06:002009-12-29T18:31:37.619-06:00Well, I can certainly understand why this time of ...Well, I can certainly understand why this time of year would dredge up unhappy and uncomfortable feelings. <br /><br />I have to say though, I love the picture. So cute!Bridgetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844738855874754351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-32327147678646333132009-12-27T15:47:26.156-06:002009-12-27T15:47:26.156-06:00Miss Ellen! 1st I LOVE the photo! Dejevu!
2nd alt...Miss Ellen! 1st I LOVE the photo! Dejevu!<br />2nd although my life and beliefs are different I appauld you for writing about your memories & sharing such a part of you. Blogging is very healing. I hope you find it as validating as I do. Love to you & Happy New Year!janishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18424946398926069813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-67273683284235163862009-12-26T07:38:33.263-06:002009-12-26T07:38:33.263-06:00It takes a lot of courage to walk to the beat of a...It takes a lot of courage to walk to the beat of a different drummer - I applaud you for sticking to what is right for you. I don't celebrate Christmas as a religious observance - it is totally a secular one for us. A way of creating special family time and memories and pleasing all the little ones in the family. <br /><br />I have a friend who refuses to get caught up in Christmas and either goes to the Caribbean or skiing. Thank goodness for the freedom to choose our own way!Bonnie Zieman, M.Ed.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00282469017360136275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-15812633672933966152009-12-26T05:38:01.422-06:002009-12-26T05:38:01.422-06:00Thanks for sharing your story. It's a shame th...Thanks for sharing your story. It's a shame that something so lovely took such a turn. Once we become parents we are responsible for our kids' memories. All of this helps shape what kind of memories those will be. I suspect your kids have mostly good ones. <br /><br />Wishing you all the best for the New Year.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-54595632290094911672009-12-25T22:37:30.601-06:002009-12-25T22:37:30.601-06:00I appreciate your honesty, even though I come from...I appreciate your honesty, even though I come from a different place. I actually sort of envy where you are right now (well, I still believe in the reason for the season & all LOL). But Christmas is a BIG DEAL around here. Unfortunately, my mother was the heart & soul of it (not the baby Jesus, sadly), so when she died it took the wind out of our sails. I have wished many times since then that Dr. M & I could just say home & go to our own church & just absorb the true meaning of the holiday - & then come visit our families in March or something when things aren't so insane. Not gonna happen anytime soon. Sigh.The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-24505910844280542702009-12-25T21:44:43.323-06:002009-12-25T21:44:43.323-06:00Reya, yes there's not a whole lot of emotion a...Reya, yes there's not a whole lot of emotion attached to those memories any more. It's just part of what formed me. And where it wasn't stellar, it was a good deal better than many people have. And it it was a lifetime ago.<br /><br />Kathy, it's great letting go isn't it? Very freeing. And thank you for your blessings. Life is good.<br /><br />And Mr. London Street, not sad, done with sad.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-55546920500613272302009-12-25T20:02:14.338-06:002009-12-25T20:02:14.338-06:00I second what Gail said. And Mr, London's last...I second what Gail said. And Mr, London's last line.<br />I am glad you wrote the post, I think it's good to get that stuff "on the page" so to speak.<br /><br />I am wondering, since you have kids and grandkids, what happens, if anything at this time of year. <br /><br />Sending warm thoughts your way... it's chilly here.Sydneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10085490655524570481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-43854068934894690692009-12-25T17:25:57.857-06:002009-12-25T17:25:57.857-06:00Thank you for sharing this, it took a lot of intes...Thank you for sharing this, it took a lot of intestinal fortitude. <br /><br />Every one's life is not singing Jingle Bells around a tree loaded with presents.<br /><br />You, perphaps, have shown the true meaning of Christmas, the feelings we have in our heart.<br /><br />All of our joys and our sorrows add up to what we are today. You, my dear, are one incredible lady.<br /><br />Thank you for allowing me to get to know you.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-12215187876881756532009-12-25T14:11:17.443-06:002009-12-25T14:11:17.443-06:00Memories, precious memories. Holidays rarely live ...Memories, precious memories. Holidays rarely live up to expectations. I learned after driving myself crazy (literally... in a locked room on a psych ward) to just let things happen. I care little for appearances and find it amusing when I see someone (my SIL) try so hard to fit that mold of the perfect family.<br /><br />I guess I am still a little miffed at her. Today is wonderful. I have talked to all my children and I am baking cookies and treats for my husband (at work) and tonight we will watch TV and enjoy the snow falling around us while the fire warms our toes (no chestnuts).<br /><br />Wishing you a peace filled day, a full tummy and a happy heart!Kathy's Klotheslinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881966393157941515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-50300860971523302142009-12-25T13:40:10.779-06:002009-12-25T13:40:10.779-06:00We should talk. I think we had the same Mother. ...We should talk. I think we had the same Mother. I love my Mom, no question, but I have more pictures in my photo albums of tear stained faces on holidays/birthdays than I can count.<br /><br />I said to her the other day "I am finally learning to love Christmas" and she replied "Really? We always gave you what you asked for." And I responded "No, you really didn't." She understood and actually apologized. <br /><br />So I understand. I do it mostly for my kids and Pooldad. It is worth it. It is such fun to see their happiness. Something we tiptoed around when I was a kid - my Mom was your Mom, I think. And Dad? Scrooge.<br /><br />I hope you have a peaceful and fun day, 'kay? And I am always around should you want to chat. I think we can relate. Nice post Ellen. Take care.SkippyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479661523059481730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-76343048038506892732009-12-25T13:26:42.228-06:002009-12-25T13:26:42.228-06:00This is such a beautiful post. I love it when anyo...This is such a beautiful post. I love it when anyone can let go of fantasies, of the PR version of their family stories, and just tell the unvarnished truth.<br /><br />I love it that your story isn't sentimental or self pitying or the happy PR version. It's just real.<br /><br />I salute you! Bravo!! Happy Christmas friend. Thank you.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-36504828645642948112009-12-25T12:11:12.396-06:002009-12-25T12:11:12.396-06:00Um...happy 25th of December, then, my friend.
Thi...Um...happy 25th of December, then, my friend.<br /><br />This reads like a Russian novel. Then again, I like Russian novels!Fireblossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07040525704916368792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447321916012029979.post-39508123407572976512009-12-25T11:52:58.237-06:002009-12-25T11:52:58.237-06:00Oh Ellen, such a pity that this time of year unloc...Oh Ellen, such a pity that this time of year unlocks memories like this. I hope that, even if Christmas is no happier than any other day, it's also no longer any sadder.Mr London Streethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05141191628680903646noreply@blogger.com